Question by : Im a drug addict IN RECOVERY AND LOST AS LONGTERM RELATIONSHIP. hOW TO GET HER BACK????? ANY HELP OR SUGGESTIO?
I have been struggling with my drug addiction from opioid pain medications for the past 6 years. Im currently 25 and my girlfriend is 21. I have been thru many treatment centers over the past few years and continue to relapse. we have been together off and on for about3.5 years now. usually more together time then breaking up. but we always end up back together. After she found out about my iv drug use in spring 2011 she broke it off again and cant understand why i keep going back to using.I went into treatment again n june of 2011 and after a month while there we re established are relationship . I have been out in california since the entry date of treatment and she is back in missouri,so its a long distance relationship right now and it sucks. Over the past 9 months she has visied me twice foa a week at a time ,the most recent in jan 2012. i have had some mishaps and issues with following treatment rules resulting changing to a few rehabs out here and then moved to sober houde. I had a job was doing well and then all the sudden out of no-where 3 weeks prior to her turning 21 told me that she can no longer take the distance and the fear of not knowing if i will relapse later on in the future and emotionally just cant deal with it again. btw shes a normal persom who just drinks. I love this woman and plan to ,arry her. So recently we had many great conversations and things were going well she was just upset and angry for me beeing kickd out of the sober house, then all the sudden she had stopped answering all my calls and now just took all of are many pics off her facebook and has blocked me to where i cannot even see her page.and its killing me. Im trully devoted to staying clean thus time but i cant stand to lose such a wonderful woman in my life.WHAT SHOULD I DO ? AND HOW DO I GO ABOUT IT. ?Im just afraid to arrive back to missouri in 2-3 months and fir her to be with someone else. i cannot handle that and niot having her in my life as my girl and future wife. I have hurt her so many times by my continued relapses and lying to her about my drug use. I just want and despretly need her in my life. by far the best thing that has ever happened ro me.I hope and pray we will get back together.she just needs to see me hold my job and show her i can stay clean in our hometown and to be able to see her everyday, Im working the program ,12 steps,sponsormjob and everything else. I just ont know what to do. PLEASE HELP….ANY SUGGESTIONS WOULD BE GREATKY APPRECIATED EITHER FRIM A FEMALE OR MALES PERSPECTIVE. tHANKS GUYS.Oh and by the way i have put her thru alot of emotional trauma and i believe she has and does have every right to be angry and resentful maybe i just have put her thru too much and she cant take the pain and stop putting all her focus on me and giving me support thru this.Can i get her back i love her and want to be the sober guy she knows i can be and when sober im a great guy,treat her with the upmost respecr and have and would never cheat on her, shes my soul mate,love of my life and cannot afford to let her get away. i will never stop pursuing her till all ends have been tried thanks again for experience,strength anf hope and any kind of advice    Read more...